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Saturday, 25 May 2013

Loss!

I have been very sad since November last year. I didn't know if I should share this but I feel as I am in a safe place here I can share this with you my dear friends.  James is my grandson. Here he is:-





These photos are from Nov 2012 the last time we had him at our home.
This is my beautiful ANGEL and I can't look at his photographs with out crying! I am BEREFT 

This may sound strange because he is still ALIVE. But his mother has been with another man and had two children to him and has now moved house and never told us. We went round to pick him up as we have done for the last four years. I was there when he was born (I actually assisted). We have been an integral part of his life from his birth. It didn't work out between our son and her but still she allowed us to pick him up every fortnight. Anyway, time passes and a couple of boyfriends came and went. Then Ryan came on the scene she quickly became pregnant and then another pregnancy followed he was good with James and we had nothing to negative to say apart from he didn't want a relationship with us never spoke to us etc and we suspected that this day may come, put prayed it wouldn't. We have no legal rights we can enforce, our son can not get access as there is no legal aid now for him to claim.

So we haven't seen our beautiful boy since November 2012 the month of his birthday. I ache with longing for him. I think it's some times worse than him being dead, because he is out there somewhere and I can't do anything to find him. Then I think don't be stupid he is ALIVE and out there somewhere and that is better surely.

So here is a page for James Michael Anthony, My Grandson I love you so much be safe and god protect you my angel boy where ever you are love Grandma & Granddad your uncles Shawn & Matthew who also miss you loads and the rest of your family who miss you.

I found this poem for the loss of a child and this is how I feel:







The Cord
We are connected,
My child and I, by
An invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.

It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't been seen
By any on Earth.

This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.

I know that it's there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.

The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.

It's stronger than any cord
Man could create
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.

And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no one can see.

It pulls at my heart
I am bruised...I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before.

I am thankful that God
Connects us this way
A mother and child
Death can't take it away!

Author Unknown


We love you James. Your Uncles love & miss you as does all our family. We pray one day we will see you again that you will remember some of the times we have spent together, that we love & wanted to see you no matter what you are told by others. I pray you will be safe and protected and that one day we will see you again God bless you my dear boy Gxx

11 comments:

shawnanthony said...

A bit soppy and 'God heavy' but I understand how you feel. His Mum is a real bitch for what she has done and i'd love to see the little guy again. We'll see him again.

Netty said...

Understand your loss Dawn, but I believe you can get grandparents rights through a court of law. Hugs Annette x

Pia Rom said...

Oh my Dear...I can feel the sadness you feel about not having him around, see him grow and hug him as much as you like...but I am sure, you will see him again and you have such wonderful times together...and I am sure he will remember those days he spend with you....hug you deeply ♥ Conny

Carola Bartz said...

I am very sorry, Dawn, and I can understand how much this hurts. However, I do think that there are legal rights for grandparents. Why not give it a try and get some solid legal advice in this matter?

Zafaran said...

Oh my dear... I don't have enough words to comfort you. It is awful even to think of such a situation...I hope his mother will realize and bring him to visit you. Hope you get the strength and your lovely little boy is healthy and happy. Hugs!

Dawn said...

There are grandparents rights but you try getting a court of law to enforce them when the mother doesn't want to know.

Also Legal aid is not available to us or my Son who wishes to have access.

You need to have money to pursue your rights in this country as legal aid is now very limited to the poor!

Thank you for all your good wishes Dxx

smokeysmom said...

Dawn, you need to search "Grandparent Rights", or consult with a family law attorney because you do have rights as a grandparent. There are now specific laws that will enable you to see and visit with your grand son. Same goes for your son, the father of this child. He has legal rights to visitation unless they have been severed by a Court of Law. Don't give up so easy my friend:)

pearshapedcrafting said...

Oh Dawn! I can't imagine how you feel! My son's partner walked out on him and my two lovely grandchildren 18months ago, I don't know how I would have coped if she'd taken them! I do hope you get to see him again! Chrisxx

Suzanne McClendon said...

Dawn, I am so sorry for what you are going through. Your pain is evident in your words. I have never had this done to me. We don't have grandchildren yet However, I have immense guilt over doing something similar to my own parents. We were in danger (someone had threatened us) and we left under the cover of night to somewhere a thousand miles away. It was not safe for us (or them) for anyone to know where were went. It was years after the fact before I was able to make contact with them again. I never made it back home before my daddy died. :(

This is time that we will never recover, but my daddy never stopped loving me, never stopped asking when I was coming home.

I pray that it wasn't a bad situation that caused your former daughter-in-law to take the child and leave, and I pray that your grandson will be safe and be with you again some day. {{{hugs}}}

froebelsternchen Susi said...

I am sorry to read this.. I can imagine how bad this is for a grandma.. oh my gosh!Not to see him growing up!

I hope it will change and you will see him again!

a wonderful spread Dawn!
I feel with you!

~*~Patty S said...

Dear Dawn ~ There is no more powerful prayer than a mother's prayer (grandmother's included) ...
that sweet lad will grow up and will find you one day ...
that is my prayer for you all!
oxo